While studying Design in college, I came to learn that there are MANY other ways to please the eye when it comes to designing a space. I will coordinate now, but rarely match. I have found that matching stifles creativity and limits design possibilities. I follow the design philosophy that if you really love something, you can make it work.
Now, when clients ask me to transform matching pieces for them, I often suggest coordinating colors, finishes or styles rather than making them exactly the same. Sometimes I will paint different accent tables the same color to be used together in a space...the same color, but different looks. A bedroom can be brought to the next level when the bed is flanked by 2 of the same table in different finishes. A living space can be made to look amazing with a sofa between two different tables in the same color.
Take a step outside the box when it comes to putting together your space. Be creative and have fun.